I realize we all have our own "comfort zone" because we are all unique individuals. While in the hospital, I was asked certain questions that were not even close to my "comfort zone!" what happened to the "think before you speak" advice we've all learned?
Here is my list of "don't ask!" most coming from strangers because if you are my friend I may want to share.
Are the doctors optimistic? (no, I'm just going to battle for the fun of it.)
When do they say your hair will fall out?
How long do they give you? (please, never take away someones hope)
What stage is your cancer?
My sister just died from ovarian cancer. (I'm sorry for your sister but how did that comment keep me positive.)
I know there are more, These just made the top of my hospital memory list.
Just a side note. I was searching for these jeans without any luck. Just happened to ask Randy if he knew where they were. He said and I smile, "yes, they are in the back of my car. I was certain you would be coming home on day 2. That's one reason I love that man. He has made many sacrifices, many, many. He is such a positive force in my life and I love him so much. You all know I have a beautiful daughter, Natty. I also have three wonderful sons who were by my side in my darkest hours. I draw strength from each of them, Nick, Brady, and Bo! Nat's husband Daniel, Nick's wife Monica and 5, soon to be 7, grandchildren: Jaxon, Justus, Addi, Jace, and Izzi.
Sorry, this rambles on--look at the time, just couldn't sleep. Thank you for your positive influence in my life. I feel truly blessed.
Kandace ~ You are truly amazing! I miss seeing you and visiting with you. I hope that you continue to feel stronger each day. I love you and I am proud to be your friend.
ReplyDeleteHey sweet girl, I had a good laugh reading this post. It's the first time in a long time that I've heard your sense of humor coming through. I was telling Jim the things "not" to say to a cancer patient. He agrees and sends his love. Keep up the sense of humor and the positive attitude. You are my hero. I miss laughing with you while we eat.
ReplyDeleteLove you, Geri
You and Brenda should get together and write a book on the things not to say. She has quite a few also :) You are my hero. Just keep fighting.
ReplyDeleteRenee
You do have an amazing husband and children. Their faith and yours is an inspiration to me. I think you get credit for the kids, but you have to share credit for Randy with Mom. Keep up the good fight we are all pulling for you.
ReplyDeleteWith love, Melanie
I have one more things you can add to what not to ask a patient. I actually had two people ask me this:
ReplyDeleteso do you think you will beat this and another, " do you think this will take you"?
Sorry, the unknown was me. Love you and good night. Kerri.
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